2A. In the reading Heasly’s: Queer masculinities of Straight Men
I can really apply this to a man in my life. This idea that men consider other men to be gay because they do “gay-like” things for example if they support gay rights and if they do not like sports they are portrayed as gay. My best friend is what can be called the “gayest-straight man” there is. However, in high school because he like music theater, dance, and he is a huge supporter of equal rights and supports gay rights, a lot of the boys/men in high school would refer to him as gay. I think it is weird that men are so negative and uncomfortable with men who have “gay-like” qualities. I also think it is a little funny how some men feel so uncomfortable with someone who is possibly gay. It is also funny how they feel that their masculinity in some way is threatened by the presents of somebody who portrays to be gay.
1A. To me it was really interesting and new was the idea that effeminate was so bashed upon in both the straight culture and the gay culture, something pointed out in Sissyphobia… I thought it was different how gay men bashed on other gay men for being “too gay” or more of the concept of being to feminine, I think that because gay is connected to being feminine which is “girl behavior”. I believe that maybe that is why is it looked down upon. To be a woman is considered to be weak and this is why being to feminine is so bad because no one wants to be considered weak. I also think it is sad that not all the gay community unites, because in reality they are all the same and all want to be equal and not be discriminated, however, they discriminate within each other, which I think is sad.
1B. An idea that makes sense to me is what Hennen’s points out in Bear, bodies are shaped by the type of work done I think this is true bodies are shape by what people do everyday. I also think that it is true the working class man has the stereotype of being hyper-masculinity. However, there are people that have very no physical jobs are still able to keep a good shape.
I agree with what you wrote on your findings in Sissyphobia. the worst thing someone can be called is a girl. Or someone who is acting like one. Why does society put women down? We also need to accept people for who they are....
ReplyDeleteI also agree, its so hard to hear when men talk to other men using women like tearms like in this case sissy. The worst part is that they find it the most natural thing to say.
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